Episode 8

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3rd Jul 2026

Why Butterflies Aren't Always a Good Sign with Danielle Lee Darling

Episode Summary

This episode explores a different perspective on resilience—one that begins with the relationship we have with ourselves.

Relationship coach Danielle Lee Darling believes that many of the patterns we experience in our relationships are rooted in old beliefs, past experiences, and habits we may not even realize we're carrying. Through what she calls self-sovereignty, Danielle helps women recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, reconnect with themselves, and build healthier, more intentional relationships.

This conversation offers a thoughtful perspective on self-awareness, emotional healing, communication, and the patterns that shape our relationships.

In This Episode

  • What it means to become "self-sovereign"
  • Why we often repeat unhealthy relationship patterns
  • The four relationship archetypes Danielle sees most often
  • Creating a list of qualities that truly matter in a partner
  • Why calm may be healthier than butterflies
  • Listening to what your body is trying to tell you
  • The role of inner child work and emotional awareness
  • How understanding yourself can strengthen every relationship—including friendships, family, work, and business
  • Danielle's upcoming Soul Sovereign Love Academy

Whether you're navigating a new relationship, strengthening a long-term partnership, or simply interested in understanding yourself better, this episode offers practical ideas for becoming more intentional in the relationships that shape your life.

Books mentioned

  • The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
  • It Didn't Start With You by Mark Wolynn

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DunnWise Perspectives
A podcast about resilience, mindset, and the stories that shape who we become. Hosted by Doris Dunn, DunnWise Perspectives shares real conversations with people who have faced challenges, found their turning point, and discovered a way forward.

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Doris Dunn

Doris Dunn is a business coach, speaker, and founder of DunnWise Consulting. With more than 30 years of experience in the insurance industry, she has built a career focused on learning and development, employee engagement, and helping individuals and teams reach their full potential.

Through her work, Doris helps business owners and leaders turn their ideas into clear strategies, guiding them from vision to action with a focus on mindset, accountability, and long-term success.

Doris is passionate about the role mindset plays in both personal and professional growth. Her own journey—marked by loss, resilience, and difficult life decisions—has shaped her perspective and deepened her commitment to helping others navigate challenges and move forward with confidence.

She is the host of DunnWise Perspectives, a podcast dedicated to sharing real stories of resilience, shifting mindsets, and the moments that shape who we become.